Feelings

"Feelings are the soul’s way of communicating."

"Feelings" are our internal emotional responses to things that happen in our lives—kind of like the signals your body and mind give you to tell you how you're doing in a given moment.

They can be:

• Emotions like happiness, sadness, anger, fear, or love

• Physical sensations that come with those emotions (like a racing heart when you're anxious)

• Subjective experiences—meaning they're deeply personal, and two people can feel very differently in the same situation

So when someone says, “I have a weird feeling about this,” or “I’m feeling happy,” they’re talking about their emotional state or intuition based on a mix of past experiences, current circumstances, and sometimes just gut instinct.

When people "play with others’ feelings," it's usually because of a mix of reasons—some intentional, some not. Here are a few possibilities:

1. Lack of empathy

Some people just don’t fully grasp how their actions affect others. They might not understand—or care—how deeply they’re hurting someone.

2. Insecurity or ego

People who feel powerless or unsure of themselves might mess with others emotionally to feel more in control or powerful. It’s a way to boost their own ego.

3. Fear of vulnerability

Instead of being honest or facing uncomfortable truths, some people play games to protect themselves from getting hurt. They might lead someone on or act hot and cold because they’re afraid of commitment or intimacy.

4. Manipulation

Unfortunately, some folks do know exactly what they’re doing. They might use feelings to get what they want—attention, love, sex, control, etc.

5. Lack of maturity

Sometimes people just haven’t grown emotionally. They treat relationships like games, not realizing—or not caring—that real people get hurt.

Whatever the reason, it’s not okay. Playing with someone’s heart can leave lasting damage. The best relationships—romantic or not—are built on honesty, respect, and care.

The core reason people play with others' feelings often comes down to emotional immaturity or self-centeredness—but let’s break it down more deeply:

🧠 1. Psychological patterns

People act based on how they were raised, what they’ve experienced, and what they've learned about love, trust, and connection.

• Trauma or broken trust can make someone scared to open up, so instead of being honest, they play games to stay “safe.”

• Learned behavior—if they grew up around manipulation or emotional neglect, they might not even realize what they're doing is harmful.

❤️‍🩹 2. Lack of emotional accountability

Some people avoid responsibility for how they make others feel. They might say:

“I didn’t ask you to catch feelings.” “You’re overreacting.” “It wasn’t that serious.”

That kind of deflection lets them avoid guilt while still getting what they want—attention, validation, or even just entertainment.

😶‍🌫️ 3. Wanting the benefits without the commitment

They like the closeness, care, or intimacy—but not the responsibility that comes with it. So they:

• Flirt just enough to keep you hooked

• Disappear when things get deep

• Reappear when they want that comfort again

That cycle is confusing, painful, and unfair to the person on the receiving end.

🎭 4. Ego games

Some people need to feel wanted. When someone likes them, it gives them a high. But instead of being kind about it, they:

• Lead people on

• Test others’ love to feel more desirable

• Use emotions as a power play

Bottom line? It’s usually not about you. It's about them not being emotionally ready, honest, or respectful enough to treat others with care. If you've been through that—it says more about where they are in life than your worth.

Healing from someone playing with your feelings is tough—but it’s absolutely possible. Here’s a way to start untangling all that:

1. Acknowledge what happened — and how it made you feel

Don’t minimize it. You were hurt. You were misled. That’s real.

Write it out. Cry if you need to. Talk to someone you trust. Let those emotions out, because holding them in doesn’t make you stronger—it just makes the pain quieter but longer-lasting.

2. Remind yourself: their actions = their problem

You may start wondering:

• Was I not enough?

• Did I do something wrong?

• Was it my fault for catching feelings?

No. People who play with emotions often do it regardless of who the other person is. It’s not about your worth. It's about their lack of integrity or maturity.

3. Set emotional boundaries

This one takes time, but it's powerful:

• Learn to recognize red flags early (hot & cold behavior, vague intentions, love-bombing, etc.)

• If someone’s words and actions don’t match, believe the actions

• Don’t give more than you’re receiving—emotionally, mentally, or physically

4. Focus on self-worth

You’re not broken. You’re not weak. You’re human—and people who feel deeply also love deeply, and that’s a gift, not a flaw.

Work on stuff that makes you feel powerful:

• Hobbies that bring joy

• Goals that remind you what you’re capable of

• Surrounding yourself with people who uplift, not drain

5. Forgive—not for them, but for you

You don’t have to let them back in your life. But forgiving (eventually) helps release the bitterness that keeps you stuck. It doesn’t mean what they did was okay—it just means you’re choosing peace over resentment.

6. Trust again—but take your time

Not everyone’s going to hurt you. When you’re ready, don’t shut your heart off—but protect it with wisdom, not walls. The right people won’t play games. They’ll show up. Consistently.

7. Sit with your emotions, don’t run from them

Sometimes we try to distract ourselves—scrolling, partying, pretending we’re fine—but that just delays healing. Real strength is:

• Letting yourself feel the anger, disappointment, or even confusion

• Asking: What exactly hurt me? Was it the betrayal, the false hope, the lies?

• Being kind to yourself through the answers

When you sit with it, you understand it. And once you understand it, you start to release it.

8. Kill the "what ifs"

“What if they didn’t lie?” “What if I did something different?” “What if they come back?”

These thoughts? They’re mental quicksand. The truth is: what happened, happened. We can’t rewrite it. But we can choose what story we tell ourselves next.

Instead of asking "what if," try asking:

• "What did I learn?"

• "What do I deserve going forward?"

• "What boundaries do I need now?"

9. Cut off false hope

This is a hard one. But if they’re still lingering—texting randomly, breadcrumbing you, giving mixed signals—you have to protect your peace.

You might need to:

• Mute or block them

• Stop checking their socials

• Create distance (physically or digitally)

It’s not petty. It’s self-respect. You can’t heal in a place that’s still hurting you.

10. Channel the pain into power

This might sound cliché, but pain can fuel growth like nothing else.

• Write your story. Journal. Speak it out loud.

• Get creative—music, painting, poetry, anything that lets your soul breathe

• Take that energy and pour it into something that feeds you—your health, your dreams, your peace

Some of the strongest, most beautiful people you’ll ever meet have scars you’ll never see. You're becoming one of them.

11. Find connection and support

You don’t have to go through this in isolation.

• Talk to a friend who won’t judge or try to “fix” you—just listen

• If it’s too heavy to carry alone, therapy is not weakness. It’s a lifeline.

• Even reading others’ stories online can remind you: You’re not the only one who’s felt this way—and you won’t feel this way forever.

12. Remember who TF you are

Seriously. Take a moment and ask:

Before this pain, who was I? What made me laugh? What made me feel alive? Where did I feel most like me?

Start rebuilding that version of you—but wiser, stronger, and way more in tune with your worth. This pain doesn’t define you—it refines you.

You don’t have to rush healing. You’re allowed to miss them, remember the good moments, even cry randomly sometimes. That doesn’t mean you’re weak—it means you cared deeply, and that’s powerful.

Ah, happy feeling—now we’re talking 🌞

That warm, light, sometimes bubbly sensation that makes you feel like your chest might burst (in a good way). It’s like everything aligns, even just for a moment, and you feel alive, grateful, or simply at peace.

So what is happiness, really?

It can show up in different forms:

🌈 1. Joy

That sudden burst—like laughing uncontrollably with someone you love, hearing good news, or dancing in your room like no one’s watching.

It’s energy. It’s sparkle. It’s your soul throwing a mini party.

🌿 2. Contentment

The calm kind of happy. No chaos. No rush. Just peace in your heart, maybe sitting in the sun, sipping tea, and thinking,

“Right now, I’m good.”

🔥 3. Excitement

That thrill in your chest when something amazing is about to happen. Like you're about to start something new, chase a dream, or see someone you missed.

💞 4. Love

One of the deepest happy feelings—when you care about someone (or something) so much, it fills you. Could be romantic, a best friend, a pet, or even yourself.

✨ 5. Gratitude

A powerful kind of happiness when you realize how much beauty exists in the small things.

“Wow. I’m lucky to feel this. To be here. To have this moment.”

Feelings come in all shapes, sizes, and intensities. They’re like the colors of your inner world, and just like a good playlist, you can go from chill to hype to heartbreak in a heartbeat. 😅

Here’s a breakdown of the main types of feelings, grouped into categories to help make sense of them:

💛 Positive Feelings

These are the feel-good vibes. They lift you up and make life sweeter.

• Happiness – joy, excitement, laughter, fun

• Love – affection, care, warmth, connection

• Gratitude – appreciation, thankfulness

• Pride – feeling accomplished, confident

• Hope – feeling optimistic about the future

• Peace – calm, relaxed, safe

💔 Negative Feelings

These are tough, but totally normal—and often, they teach you a lot.

• Sadness – grief, loneliness, disappointment

• Anger – frustration, rage, resentment

• Fear – anxiety, worry, panic

• Guilt – shame, regret

• Jealousy – envy, insecurity

• Hurt – betrayal, rejection, emotional pain

🤯 Mixed or Conflicted Feelings

Sometimes it’s not one clear emotion—you feel everything all at once.

• Bittersweet – happy and sad at the same time (like graduating or saying goodbye)

• Nostalgia – warmth from a memory + a little ache

• Confusion – not sure how you feel, or feeling two opposite things at once

• Overwhelmed – when everything hits too hard, too fast

• Emotional numbness – when you feel nothing, often from burnout or pain

🔮 Intuitive or Subtle Feelings

These are more like vibes—you feel something, even if you can’t explain it.

• Gut feeling – instinct, intuition

• Vibe shift – when something just feels “off”

• Longing – craving something or someone deeply

• Anticipation – waiting for something, sometimes exciting, sometimes nervous

Every feeling is valid. You don’t need to justify them—they just happen. What matters is how you respond to them, not whether they’re “good” or “bad.”

Let’s break it down by how to deal with different types of feelings, whether they’re heavy, intense, confusing, or even good ones that catch you off guard.

🛠️ 1. First Step: Name it

“What am I actually feeling?”

Sometimes it’s not just "sad"—it’s disappointed. Not just "angry"—it’s betrayed.

Giving your feelings the right name helps your brain make sense of them—and helps you figure out what you actually need.

🔥 2. If it’s intense (like anger, panic, or heartbreak)

• Pause. Breathe. Deep breathing calms your nervous system. Try 4-7-8 breathing (inhale 4 sec, hold 7, exhale 8).

• Don’t react right away. When emotions are loud, wait. Give yourself time to cool off before making decisions or sending that text.

• Write or speak it out. Journal. Talk to a friend. Say it out loud to yourself. Getting it out helps you see it clearly.

😔 3. If it’s sadness, loneliness, or emptiness

• Let yourself feel. Cry if you need to. Feeling it doesn’t mean you're weak—it means you’re human.

• Don’t isolate. Even if you want to be alone, stay connected to someone—even just sending a message like “Hey, I’m feeling low today.”

• Do something gentle. Go for a walk. Watch a comfort show. Make tea. Do one kind thing for yourself.

😵‍💫 4. If you’re confused or emotionally overwhelmed

• Brain dump. Write out everything you’re feeling without editing. Let it be messy.

• Ask simple questions:

  • What happened that triggered this?

  • What am I afraid of?

  • What do I need right now—comfort, clarity, distraction, support?

• Give yourself space. You don’t need all the answers right now. You just need to breathe through it.

🌟 5. If it’s happiness, love, or gratitude

• Soak it in. Don’t rush past it. Happiness can be fleeting—so let it sit with you. Smile. Reflect. Be present.

• Share it. Tell someone what made you happy. Gratitude multiplies when it’s expressed.

• Celebrate yourself. Even small wins or tiny joys deserve a mini celebration. You deserve to feel good without guilt.

🧘‍♀️ 6. Build emotional habits

These keep you grounded before feelings get too overwhelming:

• Daily journaling (even just 5 minutes)

• Check in with yourself: “What am I feeling today?”

• Move your body: walk, stretch, dance, shake it out

• Meditate or listen to calming music

• Have a go-to “emotional toolkit”: a playlist, a comfort show, a list of people to talk to, etc.

❤️ 7. Most importantly: Be kind to yourself

Your feelings aren’t wrong. You’re not “too sensitive.” You’re not “dramatic.” You’re feeling deeply, and that’s a beautiful thing when you learn to carry it with care.

🌱 Conclusion on Feelings

Feelings are the raw, real expressions of what’s happening inside us. They are signals, not weaknesses—guiding us, warning us, and connecting us to the world and to ourselves.

Whether they’re joyful or painful, loud or quiet, clear or confusing, every feeling has a purpose:

• They tell us what matters.

• They show us where we need healing.

• They remind us we’re alive.

The goal isn’t to control or deny our feelings—it’s to understand them, accept them, and respond with care. Because when you learn to sit with your feelings—not run from them—you begin to truly understand yourself.

So feel deeply. Heal gently. And remember:

Feelings are visitors. Let them come, learn from them—but don’t let them unpack and stay forever. 💛

Thanks for reading!!